Category Archives: Parenting

Sick, again

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I have no idea what I keep catching but it’s awful. 😦 Spent the evening and last night puking and worried about my son who hit his head and got a big ol golf ball bump on the back of his head. Hubby had to come home from work to take care of everyone this morning and to hopefully get us back into health. He applied for his dream job and got his portfolio up and running which I am proud of him. I have a few ideas and wants for business ventures but have to research up the investment it would take. That’s the hard part, being a saver means not ever gambling with your money but at the same token that’s the only way to be your own boss and make some $.

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Cloth diapers: 0 Life: 1

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So we finished up week 1 of cloth diapers at daycare only to have a missing Fuzzibunz OS yesterday. 😦 These aren’t cheap so I’m bummed out as we barely have a stash. I’m going shopping today and seeing if the Flips B1G1 promotion with GMD red edge will work for daycare as that costs a whole lot less than a just 1 FB.

Then when I get home a Weehugger cover was ripped to shreds by our dogs. They are really good dogs and never tear up or destroy anything. Somehow this cover with its bamboo flaps enticed them. The dogs have access to our laundry room and I guess that cover was at the top of the pile. 😦 So I’ll also be buying a hanging wet bag today.

Then my other thing with cloth yesterday was that cottonbabies sent me 2 of one color instead of the colors I picked. Nothing big, but still…I really wanted what I had picked and not duplicates. If you are a cloth mama, you know what I mean about the colors.

Today we have a local baby bazaar which I’m gonna try and sell our more used clothes for cheap, cheap and earn a few bucks to go buy some more cloth for our stash.

I’m hating the urine smell in the morning from disposables and really considering wool, but that’s a whole new ball game for me….so that may stay in the backburner. Hoping today I get the stash things I need and they work!

Learning Cloth Diapers

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With my first, the idea of cloth diapers was ‘cute’, meaning not for me but they looked adorable on your baby!

Now with both being toddlers, we are just getting with the program. Our 2.5 yr old is potty training and while still using diapers, we’re hoping sooner than later this phase is over. However, at daycare he’s in disposables and at home he’s in gerber training pants cloth and the plastic gerber over pants. Now this being said, we got these (basically in brand new condition) from my mother who got them from a garage sale for a dime a piece I believe. I think most were in a grab bag and she might have got them cheaper. But nonetheless, this is why we are using them. Basically new, basically free, and for their purpose they work for us. ‘Cute’ training pants like by Grovia are $18-$20 a pop!!! 1) we don’t want to pay that and 2) the kid doesn’t have fashion issues so what we have we will work with.

We have toyed with the idea of sending cloth to daycare and multiple changes of clothes. We aren’t to that point yet but we might try it. We also thought about a pack of Flip Training Pants. Although we’ve had issues with the Flip stay dry inserts in Weehuggers covers. The Flips seem to bunch up with either child and get the inside of the cover wet too.

We’ve also tried the basic Indian prefolds from cottonbabies in the premium and regular sizes. Both are just too awkward lengths. We got a 3 pack of econobum prefolds which work better in the covers but won’t work in the old fashion snappi method. The Weehuggers are cute, but a little thicker in prints than their solids. I also don’t like the bamboo flaps to ‘hold’ the diaper in place since they get wet.

Our little girl just this week has been only wearing cloth at daycare. This has been going well but I do need a few more diapers. We’ve been sending BUmgenius 4.0 and Fuzzibunz pocket diapers to daycare. I have 3 more BG on their way to my house and so far I’m really liking them even though they seem a little bulkier than the Fuzzibunz. The FB with a thiristes duo insert though is super trim (IMO).

I wish we were doing all this sooner. Paying $35-45 a box per kid per month on diapers is crazy. That’s getting name brand (bc generic ones aren’t worth the price unless it’s Targets) and getting discounts. With baby #1, I had couponed and saved over a year of diapers for pennies on the dollar. So it wasn’t a price issue bc I already did all the leg work to basically get most diapers for a couple dollars a bag of diapers. Now since I don’t have that time anymore, we would order on amazon.

I might pick up a pack at Target of diapers as just in case and going out, but I’m trying hard to go all cloth.

The hardest part is understand cloth diapers. Knowing how to wash (we do cold, hot, then rinse) and knowing what you like. It also takes some money to buy up front. Although I would buy a couple prefolds and cover at first and go from there. Yes, we may all love the look of the Applechecks but seriously who can fork out $25-30 for the diaper and another $10 for the insert?

I think if people were exposed to the prefold and good prefolds, that would be eaisest. I need to try GMDS prefolds before I give in the towel. I love the idea but I need shorter prefolds. Otherwise we may start looking for natural fibers but at that price we could get pocket diapers.

If we all could have diapers like BG Freetime (which I would love to try) it would be soooo easy. I love to talk cloth (as we’ve tried a decent amount but love reading about what we might try.) What diapers do you love? What ones are worth the price?

IRA’s opened: CHECK!

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Well we did it. We both got Roth IRA’s opened up today. I have no clue in what it all means, but I just know that we both opened one and picked a portfolio that was already pre-built? I don’t know if that is the correct term, but something is open at least. I will have to figure out our budget and call up the IRA place to make sure we are all good and see if we need minimum investments to evade annual fees.

I need to follow up on the credit reports for this year to make sure they are all clear and good and everything was taken care. I am very proud of us though having done these couple things alone this month.

We are trying to plan a vacation but it’s proving to be a little difficult. We want to drive as with 2 toddlers it would be very burdensome right now to try and fly. So that means we are looking at places like Texas (Austin? Dallas?) or Arkansas (Eureka Springs?). We found the tree houses in Eureka Springs we’ve wanted to go to for a while, but they do not allow children so that is a big bummer. Most hotels or Bed/Breakfast’s look outdated and kinda gross.

Anyone have any great recommendations for the Texas/Arkansas/Missouri area to vacation with toddlers? We were thinking Colorado but that would put us at a 10 hr drive and that’s probably too much to handle drive time for all of us. We were thinking a vacation in April and a hotel or inn that is kid friendly and a nice place.

Next on our list is to get tax information together and get those done. I’m not looking forward b/c it’s a lot of work and no payoff. We usually break even with state and federal taxes which is good, but again a drag.

I have bought a few more cloth diapers (prefolds) to try with our covers we already have. I’m trying to find a good solution that we can send to daycare and quit buying those $35-$45 boxes monthly of disposables. Our 2.5yr old has really been trying hard potty training, although he will still wear disposables at daycare. I’ve thought about the Flip Training Pants, but haven’t decided. I think I’m liking the Econobums prefolds with our Weehugger covers. I also got some Bumgenius pockets that we are loving already as well. I was a Fuzzibum lover, but I really like the suede cloth inside the Bumgenius. The hard part will be figuring out what to send baby girl to school in that her cloth diaper will fit in since some of these aren’t the trimmest options. I believe I may have enough pockets to send to daycare and then I may have enough prefolds for another option as well. I haven’t decided as we are trying our new fluff out this weekend. But I am getting a little more comfortable that I will get something out of the $ I’ve spent on cloth diapers vs nothing out of all the trash disposables we’ve bought.

When you get sick…

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It’s 4am in the morning here and I’ve been up all night and all day yesterday and the night before being sick. The whole 9 yards. It feels awful. It’s funny how you immediately start praying to just get whatever thing out of your body. This is probably TMI, but you really just pray for whatever demon is consuming your stomach and insides to get out regardless. I think I’m past that point and now to the point of praying that my spinal cord is removed so my back wouldn’t be throbbing and have a heating pad sitting upwards on the couch just to be able to bear the pain.

I dislike being sick. It makes you feel weak and out of control. Nothing is enjoyable and all I want is my kids but they move around and don’t understand that mommy hurts EVERYWHERE. My husband has to take over everything from feeding to entertaining to putting them to bed and I feel so useless. Then I want him to take care of me and rub my feet as well. I truly got the pick of the litter with him. Even during regular nights, he’s the one who gets up with the kids to put them back to bed. He knows that I’m the grouch in the middle of the night and I truly need my beauty sleep. We have arguments and disagree on subjects and even dislike each other sometimes but through all that I hope he knows that I will always love him, no matter what craziness and grouchiness mood I may be in and what I say.

When I’m sick of course it always feels like death. Then I get thinking about my life and what I do and have done and the things I really want out of it. I just really want to be more in my kids lives. I really want to work from home some or work part time. You save for retirement to have time off but then it’s too late bc your kids are grown. My little boy already knows his ABC’s and asks why all the time. I’m not a risk taker but I have to eventually take some risks in order to reach my wants. I’ve even thought about setting aside money and messing with stocks and see how good I am there. Not much money, just enough to see what I’m doing and if it looks good. I don’t gamble bc I rather spend $ elsewhere but stocks at least I know a little about the company, read up what’s going on in the world, and can watch it.

I’ve thought about doing more website building and learning that. I understand and know some coding, but I would really need to build up skill and take a class. I enjoy coding and there’s the luxury of self employment and working wherever.

First of lasts…

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This week has included another first of lasts. This week I have completely all together have stopped pumping. Our ‘baby’ girl is now a toddler; she turned one last month (including a visit to the ER for mom which is a cool $200, ergh). She has weaned herself last month and refused to eat straight from me. When we would come home from daycare, she would vomit after she just had a bottle and she did this for a few days on and on. It just seemed like the breast milk was causing an unsettle with her stomach and the solid food she was eating. After she weaned, it was another first of lasts. Now this week after I stopped pumping for her and the last couple of times I just put down the drain, it was another first of lasts. 😦 It’s a feeling of my baby doesn’t need me anymore and it actually makes you depressed. With my son, we eventually cut back feedings and gradually he weaned himself and refused, but it wasn’t as drastic as our little girl.

That pump has been through a lot; from a replacement and crying and screaming and doubt and confidence. I don’t know if I want to sell it; but I know I need to. We don’t plan on having any more children right now as 2 healthy and happy ones is pushing luck as it is. Additionally even though I wouldn’t mind, the good ol’ wallet dictates what is possible. I just received the total payment for daycare last year along (with a few months our little girl was with me on maternity leave) and it was ~$13K+. That’s more than what we paid on our mortgage last year alone! Right now we get to get settled and feel more comfortable. I know that breastfeeding has saved us a lot of $ as well along the way. I also know that I could always easily find another pump (or I would probably want to buy one) if ever there was another addition to our family. It might take a few days, weeks, or months, but I have to come at ease with the pump and break away from it as well. I have been married to that pump for a good part of the past 2 years with only a few months break between the 2 kids. Overall that pump has been apart of half of my marriage so far….I will sell it, but not today.